Play Your Role
I saw something disturbing at a high school basketball game last night - the parents were giving instructions to their boys. Not just once but throughout the game. And the players maintained eye contact with the parents so they wouldn't miss any of their assignments. What's the big deal? Each of us must play our assigned role. Here is a phrase I share with teams:
players play, coaches coach, referees referee, fans cheer, and parents parent
Many of the dads were not helping but hurting their sons. The coach was shouting instructions to be patient and pass the ball and dad was yelling at son (in a quiet gym) to shoot the ball. The parents tried to coach and their sons were caught in the middle of two often contradictory messages. Coaches and players and fans are all tempted to play the role of referee, but it can easily distract them from their assigned role.
Let's remember it is a game and let's be adults who help the kids have fun. Parents, our kids already have coaches, let's be parents who are ready to support and guide them.
Posted on Tue, January 14, 2014
by Kerry O'Neill filed under